The Single Life

I have been sitting on this topic for awhile and I am sure I am not the only single person in the world who absolutely hates it. I wanted to be able to talk about my experience and how I overcame it, but I just haven’t quite got to the over it part. I decided to just write about where I am at and how I navigate through being single and hope there is someone else out there who will be encouraged.

I hate this phase of my life and it has turned into this constant feeling. In the past I have been able to shake it off and keep going but now as I move through life, I think about how I wish things were different. It’s funny having this conversation with other people because I hear the same thing every time. “You are young, enjoy all the things you can do as a single person that you cannot do with a husband or family.” They are right I am young and I have a lot more freedom to do things. The thing is my heart yearns for a family. I am willing to give up those freedoms for a family… and yes I understand.

Mainly I am trying to find ways to be content with being single even though it is the thing I don’t want. Life keeps moving and I want to keep going but giving my full attention to where I am at instead of constantly talking about how much I hate being single, in case you didn’t pick up on it earlier, I seriously hate it!

I have read and heard several things over the last few weeks that I am still digesting and applying to my life. These things include the idea of romance and doing the things we love or we wish we could do with someone and inviting Jesus into those moments. I want to have more moments that welcome Jesus and fill me up.

I was at a small group and a few people were sharing their testimonies and talking about the moment when they had a real encounter with Jesus. I didn’t share mine but it took me back to that time when I didn’t just want Jesus in my life but I needed him.  I was hurting and heartbroken, confused, lost, hopeless, and felt very alone, Jesus knew what I needed and he came in made himself very real to me and this was enough for me. In those moments of darkness, with him I felt whole. There will always be bad days but to be in a place that is focused on Jesus other things matter but they do not have fear or anxiety attached to them.

During a sermon last week the pastor was talking about Acts 14 but he talked about how we are attached to things and we do things to please others or even find acceptance in ourselves but with Jesus there is freedom. Paying off debt or losing weight or maybe even finding a spouse. We need to focus on Jesus and there will be freedom, maybe obtaining those goals will still be a challenge but it will be easier, you will see progress because we are not bonded to worldly things anymore. I know that I want freedom and do not want the world’s approval for my life.

Lastly, Knowing that you are loved and letting God’s love fill you up, we cannot love others if we do not recognize that God loves us and understand what that means for our lives. We can know something but maybe not always understand or feel what we know. I think I am still figuring this one out. I know God’s love but I sometimes get in my own head or believe the lies of the enemy and I don’t always feel that. The word Beloved has been very present in my life for the last year. So I am looking to do a study on the word Beloved to really know what that means and to walk that path. The study I will be working through is Beloved Disciple by Beth Moore. If you are looking for a study or would like to join me please reach out to me, I would love to walk through this together.

I hope that if you are single and hating it like I am that you find some peace in this time.